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Stjarna's avatar

I could be off on this but I feel like those of us who were raised by a narcissistic parent or was the black sheep of the family do not have a problem with this. We were taught to question ourselves so much from such a young age it is just an automatic way of thinking.

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Sky's avatar

It's almost a reflex, isn't it? One of the hardest things to be mindful of, because all it takes is a quick challenge in an unguarded moment and - there we go. It's most embarrassing to have to pull yourself back once you've started getting defensive.

Almost everyone, however thick their cognitive dissonance is, still shows real respect (and surprise!) towards anyone who says "thanks for correcting me, I just learned something!" So, if we keep this in mind, it's actually a great salve to our egos to say things like that. Others think more highly of us, and they will often reciprocate and allow us to teach them something too.

You can sometimes break through someone's cognitive dissonance a bit if you start off the conversation on another topic and let them teach you something. Express an opinion on something you don't know much about, and let them change your mind. They'll then be more likely to reciprocate.

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