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Fat Turkey Farm's avatar

Beautifully said. Thank you. I’m in my second year of grieving for my soulmate. If it was not for my animals I would not get up every day.

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much love!

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peter daley's avatar

What an amazing discourse on grieving.

Looking at death in a different way ,here today gone tomorrow sometimes quick sometimes slow.

Grieviing is unnecessary, the departed are free of physical limitations in transfer to a more free and blissful state.

In some cultures death is cause for celebration, after tears for the loss of a loved one.

After all there is no such thing as death anyway, we have been doing it countless times , exchanging difffent lives for the sake of experiences on the path, to become like the gods of myth and truth.

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

I love that you are experiencing relationships with loss in a healthy way that celebrates your loved ones and their energies. That is so important. 🙏🏻

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peter daley's avatar

Thankyou. I had a thought, you may like the account of founding The New Age in the biography of Dr.George King, his metaphysics and sacrifices involved forming The Aetherius Society.

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Thank you!

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K Mack's avatar

This is absolutely what I needed to read tonight. Lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago. I am going through every single one of these items without question. This is the most heartwarming, soothing, encouraging thing I’ve read. Thank you for sharing I’m in tears.

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

I'm so sorry for your loss, Kat. I'm so glad that this message found you when it did to provide you with comfort and support while you are processing, remembering, and healing. I am sending you so much love. 🙏🏻❤️

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Joan Stommen's avatar

I posted my story yesterday..ten year mark has been tough. If you have time, let me know what you think. I like feedback and critique...about my writing, about how to share raw and vulnerable. Subscribing... nice to find you here! https://open.substack.com/pub/joanstommen/p/what-i-wish-i-could-tell-you?r=18hndm&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing with me this beautiful, heartfelt tribute. I am so sorry for your loss. I love how you are focused on all of the good memories. There is so much strength in that, even when it's difficult. Sending you so much love. 🙏🏻💜

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Jennifer Depew, R.D.'s avatar

So helpful and beautiful, Demi. Thank you.

I added it to one of my websites - Glossary page, scroll down to G for Grieving - https://effectivecareinfo1.godaddysites.com/glossary-%26-resources

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Thank you for sharing this - and please absolutely feel free to give this to anyone who needs it. Sending my love.

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Gina-Marie Cheeseman's avatar

I am in a time of deep grief. This helps. Thank you.

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Sending you love and healing. 🙏🏻

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The Grief Hub's avatar

Thank you. I’m just starting to write about because I need an outlet

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

That's a great outlet to seek out. Very cleansing, healing, and cathartic, but also, others need help to process and you'll be giving them the strength to do so as well when they read your words. Keep going, keep talking, keep processing. ❤️

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The Grief Hub's avatar

Yes, absolutely! I didn’t think I’d survive this loss but somehow, miraculously, I have. Thanks for the encouragement. 🥰

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

You have, and you will, and you will help others to survive their losses as well. Sending you so much love and strength!! 🥰

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The Grief Hub's avatar

This is beautiful. I’m grieving the loss of my 20 year old son. Thank you.

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love and healing to you. ❤️

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Kristen Caven's avatar

This list is beyond incredible. In the past few years I have become accustomed to loss, and every one of these thoughts and practices have saved me, gotten me through.

One thing I discovered in my journey is that Kübler-Ross's stages are the five stages of dying (Thank you Faith Harper). Grief is more active than passive. We have to be present with it. This list is an excellent guide! 👏🙏🏻

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Thank you so much - I'm glad to be able to help. 🙏🏻

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LeslieS's avatar

Excellent piece! Wow!

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Thank you!

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

This is heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and healing. 🙏🏻

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Sending you so much love and healing. 🙏🏻💜

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Thank you so much! Sending you so much love and healing!! 🙏

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

Thank you so much. I have been hearing so many stories of people losing people on a daily basis - I feel like we all have - and unfortunately, I can feel it ramping up. It was a prediction my group made back in 2021, something we called "the death window" before the media started in with this "died suddenly" stuff which, as usual, is an insult to our intelligence and a means to mock us and our grief. So there's a certain amount of sacred rage attached to that too which we need to move through and process, not bypass - it's justified and valid and we need places we can speak safely and openly and channel that so we can feel it and work to transmute it. I hope this is one of them. I hope to create that in my own little pocket of Substacklandia, anyway. Sending so much love! 🙏🏻

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The Starfire Codes's avatar

I'm so sorry, Noah. That is such a difficult experience to have. I'm sending you love and healing. 🙏🏻

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